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The Hidden Power of Humility and Approachability
Some leaders are trusted deeply, even before they speak. Others, despite having strong values and good intent, find their teams holding back, hesitating to speak freely or raise concerns.
Why does this happen?
It often comes down to two subtle, yet invisible, leadership behaviors—humility and approachability.
They are not loud traits. You will not find them on typical performance dashboards. But they quietly shape whether people open up or shut down around a leader.
Let us explore what these behaviours truly mean in a professional context, how they get missed, and why they matter more than we often realise.
What is Humility in Leadership?
Humility is not about appearing modest or underplaying your experience. It is about staying open to learning, even from those with less experience, and leading without the need to always be right.
It reflects quiet confidence—where listening matters more than asserting expertise, and growth matters more than ego.
I recall working closely with the CEO of a multinational company. With an IIM background and a strong industry reputation, he could have easily asserted his views. Yet, during complex marketing discussions, he would often pause and say, “I do not know. Let me listen to your views.” And he meant it. He listened to junior team members with the same attention he gave boardroom advisors.
That is humility in action.
It makes a leader real. And in that realness, trust begins to grow.
What is Approachability in Leadership?
Approachability is not about being overly friendly or casual. It’s about how emotionally safe others feel in your presence, whether they can bring you the truth, especially when it’s uncomfortable or uncertain.
It is the silent permission you offer people to speak freely, to disagree, or even to fail—without fear of judgment or dismissal.
When people feel safe, ideas surface. Collaboration deepens. Accountability becomes shared, not imposed.
Why these behaviours matter for a leader?
Humility keeps a leader open to new perspectives in a fast-changing world. Approachability ensures that the leader remains connected to ground realities and early signals.
When these traits are missing, the workplace shifts in subtle but significant ways. Feedback dries up. Conversations become guarded.
People hesitate and over time, that hesitation erodes trust, creativity, and alignment.
Subtle Signs That Create Distance
You may believe you are approachable and humble—but what do others experience?
A team member considers raising a concern but holds back because you seem rushed.
Someone shares an idea, but you finish their sentence.
You invite feedback, but dominate the conversation.
You say, “Reach out anytime,” but glance at your phone during meetings.
These moments may seem small. But they slowly build emotional distance.
I once observed a senior manager who began meetings by encouraging people to speak up. But during discussions, he instinctively turned to just two or three individuals. The rest grew quiet—not because they lacked ideas, but because they felt invisible.
Approachability is not about intention. It is about the space you create.
Often, these distancing behaviours stem from habit:
You interrupt because you think you know where the person is going.
You jump in with a fix before hearing the full concern.
You avoid saying “I do not know,” fearing it may appear weak.
You ask for suggestions but dismiss them too quickly.
You appreciate feedback, but never act on it.
Over time, people stop bringing you the whole picture. They share only what is safe. They wait for the ‘right moment’ that never comes.
Even humility can go unnoticed if others feel your mind is already made up.
A CEO once told me, “I keep asking my team to challenge me, but they never do.” In his review meetings, I noticed that his tone was sharp, his pace was fast, and conclusions were drawn quickly. The team was not afraid, but they were careful. His humility was genuine, but it was not being felt.
The real question is not whether you care—but whether your presence makes others feel safe enough to speak truthfully.
How Can Leaders Cultivate These Behaviours?
Humility and Approachability:
These are not tactics to display, but qualities to grow over time, through awareness and consistent practice.
Start with curiosity, not control.
Real humility often begins with the willingness to learn.
When leaders operate from “I already know,” listening shuts down. But when the mindset is, “What am I not seeing?” or “What do you say?”, people feel included.
One plant head I worked with would pause in meetings and ask, “Would someone like to challenge this direction?” Not out of formality, but with genuine openness. Over time, people stopped waiting to be invited—they stepped forward on their own.
Create shared ownership with simple words.
A client, the founder of a growing business, had a simple practice. Whenever a critical issue came up, he would ask, “What can we do?”
Not “Why did this happen?” or “What will you do?”
That one sentence changed the energy in the room. It turned a problem into a shared space. It told everyone that their voice mattered.
That is approachability—not in form, but in intent.
Let people feel good around you.
This may sound emotional, but it is deeply strategic.
When someone admits a mistake, what do they see on your face?
Blame? Relief? Or a quiet presence that says, “I am with you”?
That one moment can decide whether they hide the next issue or bring it to you early.
It is a Practice, Not a Performance
Humility and approachability are not leadership hacks. They are everyday habits. Muscles you build.
- Start small
- Let someone finish.
- Stay with a concern a bit longer.
- Ask one more question than usual.
- Pause before reacting.
- Respond with presence.
These are not big moves. But they build something invaluable—a space where others feel safe, heard, and valued.
You do not have to be soft to be approachable.
You do not have to give up authority to be humble.
You just have to be present in a way that earns trust, not through position, but through presence.
So ask yourself:
Do people feel safe sharing openly with you?
Or do they carefully weigh their words before speaking?
Your answer may hold the key to the kind of leader you are becoming.
Stay humble and curious.
